Ziggy, I know we've all been saying stuff to you, but I want to make sure it's clear that you have a valid point and it took some courage to post it.
I'll pass along a story. My grandfather is an awesome mandolin player (www.elkriverharmonicas.com/cecilpayne.html
) and he can play numerous instruments exceptionally well. He played fiddle, guitar, mandolin harmonica. Had he made some different decisions, he could have been famous. He is/was that talented.
Side story here, there were no harmonica players around in rural Roane County, W.Va. He hadn't really heard anything but DeFord Bailey on the radio and he never really tried to copy DeFord, in fact, he never really played the harp at the time of this story, he carried a D Marine Band around for tuning the guitar. Here's how he described it:
“I figured out that when you breathed in on those bottom notes together, it made an A chord. So, I just started playing it in A and it sounded pretty good.”
Now, I knew him as a mandolin player primarily, because that's the phase he was in when I was old enough to remember this stuff. I remember going with him to a music store in Birch River (an hour drive away) and he grabbed this Gibson F-5 off the wall and played that funky intro Bill Monroe plays on “The New Muleskinner Blues.” It was the coolest thing I'd ever heard. I decided right then, I was going to get serious about music.
I had a Fender Stratocaster and amp, I traded that for a mandolin. After a few months, I worked up this rendition of nine pound hammer that I thought was awesome.
So, I played the mandolin for grandpa, whom I consider a musical god. I finish, I'm expecting the usual pat newbies get on the back for trying “you're coming along great,” etc.
What he says is “If you ain't got timing, you ain't got sh..”
THAT had me leery of playing for a while and I didn't play in front of anyone for a long time. But it made me absolutely paranoid of time to the point I developed a good sense of it. Looking back, it's the best thing that happened to me musically. Then, I could have died.